Jazmin’s Male Chastity tips
Ah, chastity…….
To say that it is a passion of mine would be a laughable understatement. Chastity is the fire in my blood, the sugar on my tongue, the erotic play that sends My head spinning. Something about wearing the key to your release makes Me wet. It’s a mechanism not only for pleasure and denial, but for the radical restructuring of a submissive’s entire mental state. I say this not to sell you some hyper fantasized version of erotic denial, but because I have seen the transformations up close: the trembling anticipation, the slow rewiring, the tender desperation of someone who has voluntarily given up control i in sacrifice to a higher erotic and psychological state.
Before we get started, a word about hygiene. This is not an “optional” step. Cleanliness is the heart and soul of sustainable chastity. Wash yourself daily in your device, many subs use q-tips for hard to reach areas. Outside of the device wash yourself with soap and water thoroughly. All of the devices I recommend should be dishwasher safe. Yes throw it in the dishwasher, the heat kills germs, and for an added step after I clean ALL my toys with cavicide or finish with rubbing alchohol. Please research how to properly use cavicide before using it.
Back to Me gushing about My favorite kink……
I am told that my enthusiasm for the practice is “infectious” which I can only hope is true. In 2023 alone, I guided three new initiates from their first nervous moments of lock up through their first month-long term, and each one emerged a new man with new eyes and a new mindset freshly conditioned to obey My erotic power.
…..But I’m getting ahead of myself—let’s start at the beginning.
Why chastity?
There are as many reasons as there are bodies in the world, but here are a few of my favorites:
1. Chastity is, first and foremost, erotically electric. The device becomes an extension of Me, a steel and polycarbonate proxy for my authority, a constant prickling presence that reminds you My will is more real than your own. Every time you shift in your seat, feel the rigid bite of the ring, or wake up in the throes of a forbidden morning wood, you remember: you are Mine.
2. Chastity is the art of self-control, and by extension, self-abstinence. Ironically, it is the relinquishing of control that teaches you the limits of your own will. When you first hand over the key whether metaphorically or literally a part of you believes you could always give up, unlock yourself, be “normal” again. By the second or third week, the thought of being unlocked begins to terrify you. Chastity teaches you the geometry of your own desires; it is a study in negative space.
Getting started:
Let’s talk about the work up, or as I like to call it, the “Chastity Staircase.” You wouldn’t go from couch potato to marathoner overnight; likewise, you shouldn’t expect to lock yourself for a week without a little training.
First, don your chosen device
My best recommendations for options are in the video, and also in this article
https://www.thankyouempress.com/memoirs/chastity-devices-the-common-questions
before you ask, NO I DON’T RECEIVE A commission. I’m just a passionate little freak who wants to help you lock up.
Try wearing your cage for just an hour. Go about your business. Take note of the psychological and physical sensations. Do you find yourself hyper-aware of your body? Does the pressure feel benign, or a bit too intense? After the hour is up, remove the device, clean yourself, and spend a few minutes journaling your impressions. (You’ll thank me for this later.)
The next day, shoot for two hours. The day after that, three. There is no shame in a slow progression, every body is different, and some adapt more quickly than others. The point is not how fast you can “endure” chastity, but how thoroughly it becomes part of your mind’s internal narrative.
In between each locked session you should clean yourself, clean your device, and edge ideally to one of My videos. www.iwantthankyouempress.com
By the end of the week, make it your goal to spend a consecutive six hours locked. You are not competing against anyone, least of all Me; this is about building up your tolerance, both physically and emotionally.
For those who have graduated from day play and are yearning for the true test, aim for a full day.
24 hours is a magical number: it is long enough to disrupt your every routine, but not so long that the device becomes an enemy.
After that, the sky’s the limit. If you find yourself able to go three days, I want you to imagine how proud I will be. If you make it to five, the rule is you *must* call Me, send photographic evidence, and surrender your key for a period of My choosing. This is not a threat; it is a promise, and an erotic one at that.
Unlocking the next tier of play requires a little bit of ceremonial pageantry. I am fond of key safes, but many of my obedient pets prefer to mail their keys to Me or tape them into an envelope and date it, to be opened only on my explicit command. The anticipation is delicious, the suspense exquisite, and the knowledge that you are truly powerless to unlock yourself is a tipping point for the psychological high.
Troubleshooting:
The most common issue I encounter is the device slipping/ falling off. This is due to a few factors…..
1. Too large base ring.
More important than aesthetics is the fit. The biggest rookie mistake is selecting a base ring that is too large. You think it’ll be more comfortable; in reality, it’s more likely to slip. The ring should be snug, but not tourniquet-tight. A good test: you should be able to fit a finger snugly underneath, but when you tug on the cage, it should stay put. Each brand’s website has thorough instructions in how to select the right cage and fit. For the serious custom cages, purchase a sizing ring kit and follow the brand’s instructions to the letter on size.
2. Gravity.
For some, no matter how well the device is fitted, gravity does its cruel work, and the cage pulls away from the body. This is especially common if you have a heavy device, or if you engage in strenuous physical activity. Enter the chastity strap: a simple but genius invention that strains the device flush against the pelvis and prevents unwanted movement.
I have never personally purchased a chastity cage strap, but several of my long-term subs swear by them. I’ve even had one creative soul sew his own with some buttons and an old boxer waistband. I was both proud and amused. I found this site off a basic web search of “chastity strap” Etsy had a few good options too.
Advanced practices:
Mature metal offers punishment pins in their devices to give the chastity play an extra edge. They are pins that poke into the shaft and basically punish you if you try to get erect.
If you’re truly serious about chastity—if you are ready to wear the device for weeks or months at a time—then you may find yourself seduced by the idea of a Prince Albert piercing. I am not going to sugarcoat it: this is an *extremely* high-commitment path, and not for the faint of heart. But for those who go through with it, the results are spectacular. I have an enormous respect for those who go this route, and I may or may not have a recurring fantasy about owning a slave with a locked, pierced cock.
My personal favorite the “sprinkler” cock. There are some chastity devices where the cage is basically flat against your member…. This is freaky, wild, and downright erotic. My favorite memory was when slave s wore one for our play time, and I made him squirt from his cage! It looked like a sprinkler and was a blast. This is the video to that memory:
With passion and power,
your Empress
