Frequently Asked Questions

What types of play do you enjoy?

I enjoy many types of BDSM focused play. The majority of what I enjoy is deeply rooted in the psychological, which I feel can take many different forms.

I’m deeply excited by being worshipped, served, and enforcing the power dynamic of Dominant and submissive. I feel this is a fun space to explore, and has an infinite number of possibilities.

To Me, BDSM is a tool to facilitate growth, healing, and exhilaration.

For a list of specific play acts I partake in please see here. If your specific interest is not listed, please inquire. The more unique the interest, the more likely I am to enjoy it too!

I don't see my specific fetish or interest listed, what do I do?

If your specific interest is not listed, please inquire with the upmost detail on the application form. The more unique the interest, the more likely I am to enjoy it too! I find deep pleasure out of exploring something new, so let's do it together!

What services don’t you offer?

Thank you for asking.

I do NOT participate in full toilet, strap-on training, nude smothering, massage, or sexual services of any kind. Although I have nothing against these sorts of things, they just aren’t My cup of tea. Everyone has limits, and those are mine.

Please be respectful and do not ask for those things.

What is your cancellation policy?

I require a 48 hour notice for cancellations.  Less than 48-hour notice will result in a loss of your deposit, and a penalty if you wish to session with Me again.

What are your fees?

My minimum in person session requirement is 1.5 hours. I feel this is enough time to begin developing a connection. My rates for this begin at $400+ pending length of meeting, activities, and location. Each additional hour is $200+ (for up to 2 hours longer)

For extended sessions 4 hours+, overnight or companion travel, I offer a different rate. Please inquire on your session request form.

I’m not interested in a strictly play session, I’m interested more in therapy.

I currently practice as an alternative lifestyle coach. Specifically catering to those under the BDSM umbrella or in relation to sexual trauma.

If you are looking to talk, or simply for a judgment free zone to live and act out the version of you that you want to be, I am here for you.

For this I’m open to video calls, phone calls, and in-person meet ups. It can take any form that you and I decide to be the best course of action. It can be a fun mix of play and therapy, if that is an option you'd prefer.

I’m nervous about our session can we do a call first?

Absolutely!

My rates are $70 for 30 min and $120 for one hour.

Where else can I see your stuff online?

You can see Me at:

What are your first time requirements?

If we’ve never met before, I like to have a reference, and I find it absolutely imperative to do a 30 min phone call to ensure that you and I are a good fit.

I’m a novice, how do I start?

With respect and honesty.

When you message Me, think of it as writing a cover letter for a job interview. Be sure to read my site first to ensure we might be the right fit for each other.

Do you do public outings? Overnight sessions?

Yes, in fact I absolutely love them. Please mention what you are looking for

Will you wear a specific outfit for my session

I always dress sexy, and I’ll happily take your outfit request, but what I decide to wear is entirely up to Me.

Where are you based?

I’m currently in the LA area. I frequent cities like Toronto, New York City, San Francisco, and Seattle every few months to see My devoted submissives.

Do you travel?

I LOVE TO TRAVEL!

I’m hoping to explore outside of North America soon, but for the time being I frequent cities like Toronto, New York City, San Francisco, and Seattle every few months to see My devoted submissives.

If your city isn’t listed, please submit a request, and we’ll see if I can explore your city next.

Do you meet with LGBTQ people?

Yes, yes, a million times yes. I consider myself pansexual.

Do you meet with couples?

Yes, in fact I love to. My only requirement is that I speak to both parties before our session.

Do you session with other mistresses?

Yes, I have quite a few dominant female friends and male friends I can recommend. I absolutely LOVE to play with others. I feel it adds a unique level to our session. I can also recommend a few professional submissives if you’d like someone to play with on your side.

I’m a photographer, can I shoot you?

I got my start at 18 as an art nude model, being in front of the lens has always been a hobby of mine. Please send Me a link to your portfolio, and we’ll see if we can put together a collaboration.

Sorry, I no longer do paid work, only TFP with established photographers. I will not shoot for a session trade.

Photographers may reach me for collaborations at photos@thankyouempress.com

May I bring you a gift?

Absolutely, I love gifts. For the submissive who makes the extra effort, I feel it makes them stand out from the crowd.

For some recommendations, see my gifts page.

Can I be your personal slave?

It depends…

Are you sure that’s what you really want?

If your idea of personal slave is pleasing Me orally, being whipped by Me for fun, and cleaning all of My latex. You are sorely mistaken.

My personal slaves are more on the domestic side. Cleaning My floors should be its own reward. If you aren’t located in My base city of LA, don’t even think about it, I don’t do "long-distance personal slaves."

I’m not going to play with you online for free. Please have some respect toward who and what I am before making such a request of My time. Being a personal slave is quite a bit of work, for Me, and for you.

I only accept true service submissives (our house slaves) who conduct a formal paid session with Me at least once, are previously trained, and can provide prior Dominatrix references. It doesn’t hurt if you’re cute too.

Slaves must have reliable transit, and be available to WORK for Empress 1 day a week. I promise you it’s not an easy task, but for the right person it is worth it.

My question isn’t here...

If any of the info I’ve posted on My site doesn’t answer your questions, do not hesitate to ask in your application.

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